Tue, Jun. 17th, 2008, 08:31 pm
Make Me Cry
So, as mentioned earlier, I've been having crazy depression stuff going on lately and now I'm on an epic quest to make myself cry. It shouldn't be this hard- I'm spending a lot of time everyday mentally kicking myself so i'm obviously not happy. I've tried watching sad movies (Schindler's List, Titanic, When the Wind Blows), listening to a sad country song that used to get to me when I was younger, thinking about people I love dying, thinking about dying myself (which leads to not-good trains of thought), thinking how pathetic my life is, etc. Nothing's really working- I either get angry or kind of a dead, nothing feeling. If I could just have a good cry I think it would help.
I don't know what to do. About the crying thing and in general. Nothing really sounds like a good option.
Any tearjerker suggestions?
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 04:03 am (UTC)
Drink a bit. Watch Camelot
. Makes me cry every time.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 04:12 am (UTC)
What Dreams May Come. When Robin Williams is in the boat listening to his daughter, it makes me cry every time.
Cheesey, I know, but it works.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 04:36 am (UTC)
Go see "The Fall" There is a scene toward the end that had me completely in tears.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 06:01 am (UTC)
Sometimes simply staring into my own eyes and being gentle with myself the way I might want someone else to be opens the waterworks. Trying to make myself cry rarely does.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 06:03 am (UTC)
How about a little Shawshank Redemption? Hopeful crying is sometimes even better.
Or explore the PETA site for a while and watch some of their videos from inside kennels and factory farms. That does it to me.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 08:39 am (UTC)
"Terms of Endearment" is sad at the end when she's dying of cancer. Also, Forrest Gump's a good one too. I always get choked up at the part when Forrest and Jenny reunite at the washington monument.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 11:53 am (UTC)
(you may not have been asking me since I only know you by your zombie posts, but...)
This might be dangerous if you're not entirely in emotional control, but I always find very cleasing tearful sessions after I've gotten angry with someone I love, started thinking about mean nasty things I'd do in revenge, then tried to calm down by thinking about what I love about them and how good they actually are.
'Course, I cry at 'most everything, so that might not set most people off. It's hard for me to tell.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 12:39 pm (UTC)
Read the newspaper.
I kid, I kid!
Whenever I want to cry, I think about the end of my last big relationship. It was ugly and sad and remembering it, juxtaposed with the memories of how good it used to be, always brings the waterworks.
I can't really recommend movies because I cry at everything, INCLUDING Speed Racer. *sigh*
And *hugs* I hope you feel better soon.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 01:08 pm (UTC)
The Iron GiantJesse's story in Toy Story 2
The good thing about those two, is that you don't really expect a cartoon to make you well-up with emotion, so it's unexpected and quite cathartic.
Someone told me March of the Penguins
is good for it, too.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 01:21 pm (UTC)
I know you're gonna think I'm joking but seriously, I tear up at the end of Monster Squad when Frankenstein has to get sucked in the vortex and the little girl is trying to hold him. It's so sad.
So there you go, great campy fun plus a tear jerker at the end. Best movie ever, what more could you want?
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 02:12 pm (UTC)
someone already suggested it, but I'll second The Iron Giant
It makes me cry every time.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 03:53 pm (UTC)
I'm one of those people that cry at movies and TV constantly so I'm not the best choice to recommend stuff like that. Though for what it's worth if I feel like crying I always put on the prom episode of Buffy.
I think I understand what you're talking about here--there have been times when I wanted to find a way to cry things out when I was feeling terrible but in that disconnected way that makes it hard to cry or otherwise get access to immediate feelings. It's weird how being depressed can feel so terrible but not "sad" in the usual sense. For me, at least, when I'm really depressed being sad would be a relief. Even though I get numbed out when it comes to my emotions, there's nothing numb about the way the depression itself hurts. I wish I had some kind of amazing insight or super helpful advice to offer about all of that (aside from the usual obvious stuff which you may already be doing), but at least I can say that I sympathize a lot, having had (and still having) my own struggles with this stuff. And that if I can be of any help at some point I'd like to.
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 05:51 pm (UTC)
Firefly always gets me, and High Art is always good. I personally weep like a child when watching homebirths, but I can see that might not work for everyone. ;)
Tue, Jun. 10th, 2008 06:13 pm (UTC)
Thu, Jun. 12th, 2008 12:24 am (UTC)
the number one saddest movie of all times is Grave of the Fireflies.
there is no argument.
The Fall and The Iron Giant are good suggestions.